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Speaker Series

September 5, 2003

“Honoring the Mystery: Discover the Inner Motivations of Your Life Partner Quest”

With: Rainya Dann, CHT

• Has relationship ambivalence plagued you?
• Do you ever wonder why it is difficult to change a behavior?
• Would you like clarity on a relationship issue?
• Would you like to more full appreciate yourself and become more connected to your True Self?

It is important to honor the different aspects of ourselves that have something to say about our quest to find and maintain a life partner. When we don't listen within, there is often a "war" inside. (Ever feel an inner push-pull?)

Bring with you a relationship issue or habit you would like to change. Discover a simple, yet powerful technique to create clarity and inner peace.

The evening will offer interactive processes as well as an efficient technique you can do by yourself. Come and participate in the deep joy of connecting more deeply with yourself and friends.

About our Presenter:
Rainya Dann, CHT, Co-founder of the Dann Institute of Transpersonal Studies. Rainya Dann offers trainings and certifications in Hypnotherapy and Breathwork, and workshops on Tantra and Loving Relationships, Healing the Inner Child, Yoga and Meditation. Rainya has had a private practice in Santa Cruz, CA for 18 years.

Review of this program:

It's natural to be in love and it's natural to share this love with a partner. Just as a river effortlessly flows to its source, so too love flows to one another. Sometimes there are rocks, leaves and twigs that block the flow. Our work is to clear away what stops the flow of love.

Milton Ericson, the father of Modern Hypnosis, once said that if the conscious mind could have solved the problem, it would have. But since it hasn't, we need to go to the subconscious mind. In my work with individuals I go deep into the subconscious to discover what blocks the natural flow of love. Those blocks are usually early childhood conditioning.

In the beginning we are pure essence. We know of oneness and trust the mystery. As newborns we are vulnerable and dependent. The newborn fawn, lion cub and dolphin achieve independence with in days. A human takes years to become independent. When you were born, you had certain needs because your body was helpless. You couldn't fulfill your needs. You couldn't' take care of yourself. So your mind went into action. Your mind realized some one else had to take care of you. Soon after birth you asked yourself, "How can I influence others to take care of me?" You experimented with those people taking care of you. One of the very first strategies the baby learned is crying. If the crying worked and someone came, you cried again when you needed attention until a pattern was formed. Maybe you cried and no one came. So you dropped it and perhaps by being a smiling, quiet baby you received more attention. You started experimenting to see what you could do to influence people to take care of you.

As the body became more and more capable, the strategies became more complex. One child may be brilliant. Another may choose to act stupid to get attention. One child may be very obedient. Another may find being disobedient gets more attention. After much experimentation, decisions are made and beliefs are formed and the personality is developed. The personality can also be called different parts, different sub personalities, or different selves.

It is important to honor the different "selves" that have something to say about your quest to find your life partner. For example, say you are invited to a party, within you there are different sub personalities or voices that say...

"Shy voice": "I don't want to go to the party."
"Rebel": "Lets go to the party and have a drink, or two or three."
The "Rebel" takes over and has a good time.
"Victim": (wakes up the next morning) "I feel vulnerable and embarrassed."
"Inner critic": "What did you do last night?"

Another example.

"Victim": I've worked hard all day. I deserve an ice cream."
Rebel: "Yes, lets have a good time."
You eat the sweets and later feel lousy.
Inner critic: "Why did you do that. I told you it's bad for you."

The good news is we also have a part of us that is awareness. A witnessing perspective can soar above the personalities, like an eagle. When awareness is cultivated, it can say, "When you want ice cream, there are healthier food choices." Developing awareness can help you to attract the right partner.

From the Presenter:
My work with individuals is to evoke the part that knows that we are all one (and not alone). I feel it is deeply important to honor the different aspects of ourselves and see what it is they are trying to do for us. The pure light that we are born with is still flickering deep within us.

I would be honored to work with you to create and manifest your life partner who fulfills your needs and brings you true love, peace, joy and happiness. Call 831.425.7837 to make an appointment or if you have any questions.

Enjoy the journey,
Rainya Dann