Speaker Series
Friday Speaker Series
January 16, 2004 (a past program)
Invitation to this program:
- “Meeting your Match: Understanding Romantic and Sexual Chemistry”
- With: Julie Motz
Have you wondered:
- What romantic and sexual chemistry is all about?
- Why you 'fall' for one person and not another?
Each of us has an emotional energy pattern that determines everything about how we attract and connect with a partner for life. Knowing your pattern alerts you to what your relationship strengths and weaknesses are and how to negotiate the perfect match.
Your energy type is at least as powerful a factor as your gender in influencing whom you are drawn to and who is drawn to you. We instinctively seek out the person whose energy will balance and complement our own.
In this seminar you will discover whether you are a Boundary Maker, a Defender, a Negotiator or a Pacifier and with this discovery you will learn where in your body you are originating thought, feeling and action. You will learn why you are drawn to men or women of the opposite type and how to unravel the mystery of this attraction.
Julie Motz is an internationally know energy healer who has worked with a scientifically based system of energy personality types for over thirty years. She has been featured in the New York Times Magazine, Utne Reader, Ladies Home Journal, and Psychology Today and appeared on the ABC Nightly News, Dateline and Extra! Her book about healing in the operating room, Hands of Life, has been translated into four languages. Julie can be reached at 415-614-1909
Review of this program:
Each of us has an emotional energy pattern that determines everything about how we attract and connect with a partner for life. Knowing your pattern alerts you to what your relationship strengths and weaknesses are and how to negotiate the perfect match.
Your energy type is at least as powerful a factor as your gender in influencing whom you are drawn to and who is drawn to you. We instinctively seek out the person whose energy will balance and complement our own.
I. References
A. http://chemistryplus.com
B. Ch. 3 of book "Hands of Life"
II. Chart of characteristics
A. Abbreviations for energy types
1. B Boundary maker
2. D Defender
3. N Negotiator
4. P Pacifier
B. Compatibility
1. B with N
2. D with P
C. Action
1. B Stand
2. D Defend, fight
3. N Run
4. P Hide
D. Life action which is emphasized
1. B Perceive
2. D Act
3. N Know
4. P Connect
E. Body system, body fluid
1. B Nervous system, Spinal fluid
2. D Muscles, Blood
3. N Bones, Lymph
4. P Bone marrow, Synovial fluid
F. Emotion in danger, emotion in safety
1. B Fear, Excitement
2. D Anger, Desire
3. N Pain, Understanding
4. P Need, Love
G. Emotional defense
1. B Hate
2. D Resentment
3. N Contentment
4. P Hiding
H. Hate to be
1. B Ignored
2. D Excluded
3. N Abandoned
4. P Betrayed
I. Want to be known as
1. B Loving
2. D Brilliant
3. N Strong
4. P Exciting
J. Don't want to be known as
1. B Unloviing
2. D Stupid
3. N Weak
4. P Boring
III. Sequence of emotions during sex
A. Key: emotions (energy types already defined)
1. F/E Fear, Excitement
2. A/D Anger, Desire
3. P/U Pain, Understanding
4. N/L Need, Love
B. Example
1. B, N Means sex between energy types B and N
2. F/E, P/U means that first energy type experiences F/E, second energy type P/U
C. B, N
1. F/E, P/U
2. N/L, A/D
3. A/D, N/L
4. Orgasm on P/U, F/E
D. D, P
1. A/D, N/L
2. P/U, F/E
3. F/E, P/U
4. Orgasm on N/L, A/D
IV. Original Notes
A. Four fundamental types of people.
B. Activities
1. Human beings do 4 fundamental things
a) Perceive (take in info).
b) Act (take action)
c) Know (integrate what we perceive with what we already know)
d) Connect (reach outside ourselves to connect with others)
2. These are the definition of life
3. Every one of us is an expert at one of these
a) Essence of type theory
b) Where do I hang out most of the time?
C. Emotional states
1. Every emotion feels pleasurable if felt completely
2. Different values when felt in safety or danger
3. Types
a) Perceive
(1) Nervous system carries.
(2) Spinal fluid
(3) Danger, safety: : fear, excitement
(4) If suppressing fear, also suppress excitement
(5) Can be confusion between.
(a) Parenting not very enlightened.
(b) Parents want to control children
(c) We are evolving, but is very new
(d) Parents control children with fear
i) Ex: don't fall (taking care of parents' anxiety)
ii) Ex: child being left with someone they fear. Fear suppressed
b) Act
(1) Muscles carry
(2) Blood
(3) Danger, safety: Anger, desire
(a) Anger: stand, fight, run, hide. needed to defend yourself
(b) Desire: I want. To want nothing, don't move
(c) Suppressed: People who cannot defend themselves cannot afford to know what they want
(d) Analysis of focus
(e) Anger is prerogative of the powerful
i) Parent, not child, sargent not private, boss not employee
(f) Children punished for being angry
i) Absurd to break will without spirit
ii) When child made to feel bad about being angry, child then just feels bad
iii) As adult, when feeling bad, is actually feeling anger that don't feel safe to have
iv) Suppress anger until puberty
c) Know
(1) Feeling in bones
(2) Lymph
(3) Danger, safety: Pain, Understanding
(a) Pain if action fails
(b) Understanding if action succeeds
i) Coming back to self through understanding
d) Connect
(1) Felt in bone marrow
(2) Synovial fluid
(3) Danger, safety: Need, Love
(4) Parents who humiliate children through needs cut them off from fountain of vitality
4. Marry opposite type
a) Learn from them
b) Partner is outside of inside
5. Names for types
6. Defenses
a) Stand
(1) Perceivers. Boundary makers, disconnect
(a) Defense is hate
(b) Look off to the side
(2) Freeze is stand taken to point of shock
(3) Back off (immobile aggressive)
(4) Paul Newman
b) Fight
(1) Act, defenders. Stereotypical type A's
c) Run
(1) Knowers, rise above and look down. Negotiators; sales
(2) Just want to get away
d) Hide
(1) Connectors, Pacifiers
(a) Marilyn Monroe
(2) Pretending that you're not there or situation is not there
(3) Putting out "green gas", clouding
7. Compatible (need each other)
a) Stand - Run
b) Fight - Hide
c) People marry same type of person over and over again
d) Necessary but not sufficient condition.
(1) Without this you will be bored in bed
e) What do if someone attacks you emotionally?
f) Backups
(1) Stand, hide
(2) Run, fight
8. N California is negotiator; S California is pacifier
a) NY joke: how say "f_ck you" in LA: "trust me"
9. Characteristics of energy types
a) Boundary maker
(1) Dance side to side
(2) Think already perfect
(3) Marry negotiators
(4) Negatives first
(5) Defense: hate
(6) Arrogant
(7) (speaker is)
(8) Hate to be ignored
b) Defender
(1) Think already perfect
(2) Marry pacifiers
(3) Defense: resentment
(a) Hate is judgmental; resentment is critical
(4) Negatives first
c) Negotiator
(1) Describe self as perfectionist
(2) Defense: contentment
d) Pacifier
(1) Guy has no ass
(2) Dance side to side
(3) Describe self as perfectionist
(4) Defense: hiding
(a) I love you all and make non-distinctions
10. Sex only great with compatible type
11. Fight goes with hide
12. Stand goes with run
13. Chemistryplus.com
a) Has some descriptions on it
14. Ch 3 of book
15. You marry opposite, children are third type and marry fourth type
16. Kids
a) Mother boundary maker, father negotiator, children defenders, marry pacifiers
b) Mother negotiator, f boundary maker, c pacifiers, marry defenders
c) M defender, f pacifier, c boundary makers, marry negotiators
d) M pacifier, f defender, c negotiators, m boundary maker
17. Hate to be
a) B hate to be ignored
b) D hate to be excluded
c) N hate to be abandoned (may abandon you first)
d) P hate being betrayed
18. Compliments and insults
a) B want to be known as loving; hate to be called unloving
b) D brilliant, stupid
c) N strong, weak
d) P exciting, boring
19. Mathematics
a) Cardinal and ordinal
b) Completeness and consistency
c) position and momentum
20. Sex sequence
a) Key
(1) B Boundary maker
(2) D Defender
(3) N Negotiator
(4) P Pacifier
(5) F/E Fear, Excitement
(6) A/D Anger, Desire
(7) P/U Pain, Understanding
(8) N/L Need, Love
b) B, N (Sex between B and N)
(1) F/E, P/U (B experiences F/E, N experiences P/U)
(2) N/L, A/D
(3) A/D, N/L
(4) O on P/U, F/E
c) D, P
(1) A/D, N/L
(2) P/U, F/E
(3) F/E, P/U
(4) O on N/L, A/D
21. Can have attraction with someone for reasons of working out with issues with parent
22. If someone comes by and you want to leap in bed with them, they're probably the right type
23. Hormones
a) Love or need: Seratonin
b) (missed previous)
24. Parents adopt children with same issues as them
a) Taken care because grandparents get involved
Outline compiled by Don Loomis- Thanks Don!!