Speaker Series
May 21, 2004
- “Cultivating Emotional Intimacy! The Fun Adventure Begins!”
- With: Dr. Val Logan
Tired of not having a lasting fulfilling relationship? Have you gotten into the habit of focusing on what you DON'T WANT? Are you willing to have fun learning and growing into what you DO WANT?
What does emotional intimacy actually mean anyway? And how do you achieve and maintain it?
"I know you believe you understand what you think I said but what you don't realize is that what you heard me say is not what I really meant." Sound familiar?
Dr. Val will:
- Show you how to hear and be heard more deeply and to communicate more positively.
- Introduce you to the Art of Clear and Genuine Communication: how to clearly describe what you want in your partner, but also what you want from your partner.
- Coach you on how to change your negative patterns into positive ones so you can attract and develop the relationship you have always wanted.
- Teach you honest approaches and sincere strategies that really DO work!
Is this new territory for you? You are not alone! People often times just don't know how to hear each other & resolve conflicts more easily. They often end up blaming each other, reacting and fault finding, or they totally avoid their issues for fear of confrontation. They have forgotten how to stay focused on the REWARDS received from finding solutions with mutual kindness, love & respect. What are you waiting for? This is the time to learn and to remember how it feels to dream the impossible dream and to meet the impossible challenge. Here is where the unexpected journey REALLY BEGINS!
Dr. Val Logan (King of Hearts) is a gifted Life and Relationship Coach. He especially enjoys working with singles who are willing to attract their ideal mate and couples who are motivated and committed to improving the quality of their relationship. Dr. Val holds a Ph.D. in spiritual counseling & is a certified clinical hypnotherapist with over 33 years of rich life experience in facilitating many forms of personal growth. He is best known for his crystal clear, extrasensory ability to hear what is blocking your life's success and to guide you into the profound, breakthrough resolution that guarantees your own self-empowerment!
FREE Telephone Coaching session for Attendees. |
Review of this program:
I enjoyed our lively discussion and was warmly received.
We defined what emotional intimacy actually means:
Closeness experienced by deep mutual understanding brought about by the sharing of deeply personal thoughts and feelings.
Then as we talked further, it became clearer that emotional intimacy has a number of other components such as safety, trust and respect. We actively discussed how safety is created initially by a felt sense and then must be backed up by trust. We also covered the definition of respect in greater depth.
I then gave examples of how trust may be earned and demonstrated: I mentioned the 3 stages of choices. We then discussed an agreement, a promise and a commitment. We talked about the similarities and the differences and how dependability arises from these conditions.
Someone asked where intimacy is found and how needs and wants are different. We discussed how when one is too needy instead of being at choice it pushes intimacy away because people start feeling pressured or obligated to fulfill those needs. Instead of mutually giving and receiving gifts, the relationship becomes full of obligation and expectation.
We even touched on Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of needs: 1) Air, Food, Clothing, Shelter, Sleep 2) Physical safety for self and family 3) Love and Belongingness 4) Self- esteem through recognition and acknowledge 5) Self-actualization: the desire to become more a more of what one is capable of becoming. People who have most of their basic needs and wants satisfied are then freer to maximize their potential.
As an example of creating and attracting an ideal relationship, I shared how my wife and I met each other after I had used my formula for attracting my mate and my life's work.
Next I asked some individual people to come up in front of the group and make eye contact with each and every person in the group and share the feelings that came up for each person and the individuals within the group. Many comments were meaningful and insightful. It was heart warming for me when people participated.
Next I asked everyone to pick partners and then to begin imagining the partner opposite to be their ideal partner. I then suggested each person say what he or she wanted that person to say to them that would help them to create emotional intimacy. Many people were surprised to find how good they felt hearing certain words. These were examples of what people often times do not share and therefore do not always create the closeness that they really want. Most people seemed to benefit from the exercises. I found this to be true especially when they genuinely participated.
Finally I asked for a volunteer who wanted to work on a conflicting interaction. From the beginning to the end there was dramatic change in his voice which was acknowledged by the people who were attentive to the change. All in all I believe the evening was a positive and fun adventure for those who chose to create it to be that way. Just as Napoleon Hill has stated: "all thoughts which have been emotionalized (given feeling) and then mixed with faith, begin immediately to translate themselves into their physical equivalent or counterpart." We even spoke about what real faith is actually based on as opposed to blind faith where people are being led astray or manipulated. Life was Good that night.
For those of you who are interested in deepening your experience of emotional intimacy and want to move forward towards attracting your ideal partner and creating your own awesome relationship, I am making myself available for a FREE Session. ($80.00 Value) Call me to set up your appointment: 800-710-4942. Offer ends May 31, 2004.
My name is Dr. Val Logan (King of Hearts). I especially enjoy working with singles who are willing to attract their ideal mate and couples who are motivated and committed to improving the quality of their relationship. I hold a Ph.D. in spiritual counseling and am a certified clinical hypnotherapist with over 35 years of rich life experience in facilitating many forms of personal growth. I have been helping people create better relationships since 1969. I am a master at quickly getting right to the cause of your issues and helping you transform them so you can move fearlessly forward in your life. My proven process includes the actual step-by-step formula I used to find my wife, Jeanette, and to create the beautiful relationship we now have together.
With Warm Regards,
Dr. Val Logan,
www.DrValLogan.com
Ph.D. (Spiritual Counseling),
C.C.H. (Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist),
Counselor, Teacher, Life-Relationship Coach, Rebirther, Seminar Instructor and Workshop Facilitator in Creatively Alive Personal Growth and Metaphysics.
- "What if you slept, and what if in your sleep you dreamed, and what if in your dream you went to heaven, and there you plucked a strange and beautiful flower; and what if, when you awoke, you had the flower in your hand? Oh, what then?"
- --Samuel Taylor Coleridge