Speaker Series
February 11, 2005
- “Four Essential Skills for Singles”
- With: Carol Daly, CHT, MRET
Are you ready to date... and choose wisely?
Do you have the skills needed for effective choice making?
There are two common mistakes people make while navigating the early stages of meeting and dating that lead to relationship failure. One is not asking questions to screen for essential relationship requirements. The other is skipping from meeting someone to entering an exclusive, pre-committed relationship in a very short time.
Come and learn the 4 essential skills: scouting, sorting, screening and testing. Leave prepared and ready to date... and choose wisely!
About the presenter:
Carol Daly CHT, MRET is a Relationship Coach, Hypnotherapist, Rapid Eye Practitioner and speaker as well as the Director of Singles Programs at RCISV. She specializes in releasing self-defeating thoughts, beliefs, and patterns, thus saving time, reducing frustration, and achieving goals. Working with individuals both on the phone and in person, she also offers many classes and groups. To call and find out how to schedule your free 1/2 hour consultation call 650-969-3167 or email carol@caroldaly.com.
Review of this program:
2-11-05
Carol Daly, CHT, MRET
Many thanks to everyone for participating on Friday evening as we explored past patterns, the purpose and meaning of “choice” and learned about the “Four Essential Skills: Scouting, Sorting, Screening and Testing”.
Here are the basics:
A successful single practices the four essential skills of scouting, sorting, screening, and testing:
- Scouting is the process of finding people to meet. A successful single scouts in high quality, closely aligned attraction venues and has an effective network/support system.
- Sorting is the process of quickly determining if someone you meet is someone that you would like to get to know. A successful single is able to initiate contact with people, use the Power Introduction or similar technique to get enough information quickly and authentically, make a pro-active decision (being the “Chooser”) and act on it by taking the next step or disengaging gracefully. Sorting should take about 5 minutes.
- Screening is the process of getting enough information to determine if someone meets your Requirements or not. A successful single is assertive, patient, has boundaries, is realistic/practical, and does not get involved with anyone that does not appear to meet all of their Requirements. Screening can occur during an afternoon walk, or a series of telephone calls and e-mails over a week or two.
- Testing is the process of gaining experience and knowledge about the relationship and the potential partner to determine if they meet your Requirements. In Screening you are collecting information, usually self-reported. In Testing you are seeking experience and knowledge that your requirements would be met before you decide to become exclusive and enter a pre-committed relationship, where the testing will continue. Testing is an important two week to two month period in which you are consciously and patiently getting to know your partner before becoming exclusive and emotionally invested, ready to disengage if the relationship isn't aligned with your Vision and Requirements, as well as the harder to quantify criterion such as “chemistry”, “fit”, “intuition”, etc.
By mentioning the Friday Speaker Series/Relationship Coaching Institute SV, Carol will provide you with a FREE consultation for Relationship Coaching, Hypnosis, Rapid Eye Technology, or Life Skills. You can reach her at 650-969-3167 or