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May 20, 2005

“Attract Your Perfect Partner!”
With: Dr. Val Logan

Don't despair. There is hope for a better life and for better relationships. You CAN attract your ideal partner and create a mutually loving partnership that gets better and grows deeper as time goes by. It all starts with learning the feeling language of your Subconscious Genie in the bottle. Dr. Val Logan has been helping people for over 35 years to realize their own individualized communication magic. His gift is his ability to hear, see and feel in your voice which feelings are blocking your success and to help you alchemically transform them into your willing servants.

Your life then becomes a treasure hunt. You're off and running, with each clue telling you where to go next. The clues for this fun adventure are calling you. Can you hear them? Will this journey be easy? Sometimes! Will it be challenging? Undoubtedly! Will it be rewarding! Absolutely! Will it be boring? Not a chance! What do you have to lose? Only your limited perceptions! There are no ordinary moments! Through diads, demos and interactive discussion with Dr. Val you will put the right magic back into your life. Learn to genuinely Hear and be Heard! Now is the time! What are you waiting for?

FREE Telephone Coaching session for Attendees. Call 800-710-4942. www.FulfillingRelationships.com

Dr. Val Logan (King of Hearts) holds a Ph.D. in spiritual counseling, is a certified clinical hypnotherapist, gifted Relationship Coach and passionate Metaphysician. Using his own unique blend of tools and techniques he helps his clients definitively build the strong energetic foundation that attracts and supports everything they want to bring into their lives. He especially enjoys working with singles and couples who are motivated and committed to improving the quality of their relationships.

Review of this program:

My formula for Attracting Your Perfect Partner:

  1. Get really clear about what kind of partner you want.
  2. Write it down.
  3. Prepare yourself for that partner by working through the blocks that are in your way
  4. Energize it by reading it out loud with daily regularity.
  5. Take appropriate actions one step at a time.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs illustrates how many things we have in common and how we are all connected as human beings on this earth.

  1. Physical: Food & shelter
  2. Safety: family & neighborhood.
  3. Love: belonging to family & groups.
  4. Esteem: Skill, Mastery & Self-respect and recognition
  5. Self-actualizing: Being all that one can be. Maximizing one's potential and purpose for being.

By realizing our needs we can learn how to relate to each other. The word relate is defined as describing and bringing into a natural association and demonstrating a connection between.

Why do we often attract the wrong person into our lives? We are taught not to say what we really want but only what we believe can have. This goes for people and for things. (As an example, I told the story of a little girl going out to dinner with her parents. Her parents said she could have anything she wanted until she said she wanted the lobster. Then her parents told her she didn't want the lobster which made her very angry and frustrated. That is how she learned not to ask for what she wanted because her parents had not been totally honest with her.)

It is important it is to be very clear about the qualities and characteristics we want in an ideal partner such as how we want to relate and be related to. I had a client named George who followed the formula and had to change and refine his description along the way because he left out some important things and didn't get what he wanted at first. He revised his partner profile and attracted the relationship he always wanted.

As an exercise, write down the qualities and characteristics that you want in your ideal partner.

Did you think to include emotional intimacy? (Into Me See) What is emotional intimacy? It is familiar or recognizable closeness experienced by deep mutual understanding brought about by sharing of deeply personal thoughts and feelings. This helps us to recognize how we need to specify thoroughly and in depth all of what we really want. When we leave things out, our Subconscious and the Universe will tend to fill in the missing pieces and not always to our liking.

Communication is the one of the most important elements in a successful relationship. Communication is defined as: transmitting information, thought or feeling so that it is satisfactorily received and understood. Without good communication a promising relationship will fall apart.

We build trust and respect through recognizing our power of choice. When we follow through with our agreements, promises and commitments, we strengthen our relationships.

What causes an argument is a breakdown in communication through misunderstanding and broken agreements. By contrast, the opposite (Creating mutual understanding and following through with agreements) will bring about positive resolution.

The positive purpose of conflicts is that they help us to learn and grow into deeper and stronger relationships with ourselves and with others in sometimes unexpected ways. When resolution occurs we have created new points of reference that have more positive feeling tones. This helps us to change our perception so that we recognize new possibilities that had never occurred to us before.

When the Subconscious (feelings and imagination) conflicts with the Conscious mind, the Subconscious mind always wins because it communicates more powerful feelings and images.

Sit with a partner and practice the Harmonizing exercise where one partner matches the breath of the other partner. When partners match each other's rythmic breathing, you can feel the energy in the room dramatically shift in a positive and calming way. You begin to more easily understand the other person's point of view. It is amazing that such a simple exercise could help resolve conflicts.

Another powerful exercise is to speak out loud the description of your ideal partner to someone you can trust and who understands your intention. This makes the description more real and develops ownership.

Then, to the same person, practice saying out loud why you want to develop emotional intimacy. Some people spontaneously discover why they don't want to develop emotional intimacy. This helps to identify the blocks that need to be released and transformed so that you can attract your ideal partner.

I ended the Friday night talk with a demonstration using my intuitive process in helping a volunteer to work through some of her fears and blocks in the moment. It was touching and courageous as I guided her into speaking out her genuine feelings that she usually does not communicate openly. This showed her what has held her back in her relationships.

For those of you who are serious abut going to the next level I am offering a FREE Telephone Coaching session for the people reading this E-mail.

www.FulfillingRelationships.com
or E-mail: DrVal@FulfilllingRelationships.com
Hotline: 800-710-4942

Dr. Val Logan(King of Hearts) holds a Ph.D. in spiritual counseling, is a certified clinical hypnotherapist, gifted Relationship Coach and passionate Metaphysician. Using his own unique blend of tools and techniques he enjoys working with singles and couples who are motivated and willing to improve the quality of their relationships with themselves, with their potential partners and with their on going committed relationships.